Sue, I think it is time to get this all cleared up. It doesn't really matter who started it anymore, but I am getting tired of this "thing" that is going on between us.

I don't think that the rest of the community wants to see this happen, either. I will be sending you a private email and we can deal with it there, unless you would rather do it in public. Sometimes we say things in private that we would never say in public, but I doubt that anyone else here wants to see this back and forth badgering continue. So, I will take my chances that we can conduct ourselves in a rational manner via email.

Before I send the email, I just wanted to get permission, first.

Sue? Did you see my post?

I would really like to work with you and figure this thing out.

Cran,
Why don't you just send the email? It's very obvious there is tension between you two. It would be better to try and come to some kind of peace out of the view of this forum.

I'm new but it's uncomfortable to watch the back and forth. I believe you both have valid points of view and would like to see you both keep posting.

If you send the email and it's not returned, you have your answer. But if it is returned, you can try to work things out. But if things can't be worked out, it still shouldn't spill over into the forums. I realize that there will always be conflicting opinions. But that's good! I want to hear it! But I don't like to see a continuing battle between you two. I'm sure you both feel the same.

Well, I did try sending an email, twice. I don't want it to appear as if I am harassing Sue.

I want to help clear the air, too. I think there is definitely too much tension between us, and I can see that it is affecting others in this community. I know that we will always have differing points of view, different approaches. I think that is what makes this forum a great tool to use in the Zone, because I don't believe that doing the Zone ONE WAY works for everyone else's lifestyle.

Anyway, I held out the olive branch, and I really do hope that Sue answers. I hope she doesn't feel that this type of post is manipulative, because it isn't meant to be.

For the rest of you, I have no intention on creating tension, I really want to make this work for all of us!

Cran, how do you send an email? Is there somewhere I can go to send an email to someone on this forum? I was looking around but I couldn't find anyplace.

Back a few years, it used to be possible to send email. However, they have not enabled that feature on these newer forums. I used to email Sue quite regularly a few years back, but we have not corresponded via email for some time.

In any case, I sent Sue an email to the address that I had for her. I don't know if she still uses it, perhaps she does not and did not get my messages (I sent 2).

I won't be sending any more emails, because I don't want to harass anyone. I can only communicate via the forum, and if she chooses not to answer me here or via email, then I guess there is nothing more I can do, except to do my part in the forums.

Sue, if you want to contact me, and you did not receive my emails, you can send me a message at cranberrycat@gmail.com.

CC...Why don't you just *drop* the whole thing. Its obvious that this is what she is trying to do. Don't bring it up anymore and don't *respond* if you are feeling threatened. By continuing to post about this *clearing the air* is just adding more to the fire and actually does make you look like the *harasser*.

Besides...what is there to clear the air about...you both have different opinions...I think everybody knows that by now ;-) I don't know what she would say if she did respond...its obvious that you two have different opinions...there is no *winner* in this whole thing..its not like you are going to be going over to her house and be *friends*. This is an online forum war in which you are engaging in. In the real important things in REAL LIFE...why does it matter what Sue thinks about your ideas and why is it so important to be accepted by her?

I don't want a response to this..(hoping this will subject will die)....but just something to think about.

Nope, no one wins! It isn't a contest. Maybe it was wrong of me to post this, but I just don't know what is "right" to do in this situation. What really matters to me is that I want everyone else to know that I am sorry for adding to the tension that everyone seems to be feeling in the forum.