I was "told" on another thread that I had appeared "obnoxious" when posting.

I sincerely apologize to anyone who thinks I am obnoxious.

I feel very passionate about the Zone. I have been zoning for 4-5 years, and I have studied it in depth for that amount of time. As a health care worker (nurse), I feel that I have a decent grasp on the science behind the Zone. The moment that I was introduced to the Zone, I had said to myself, "YES! That makes sense!"

So, I guess that I can sometimes get caught up the emotion of it all. If I have the feeling that my point didn't get across, I will try to post again and say it a different way.

I simply stated my opinions and how they relate (or disagree) with the Zone. If I happen to disagree with what someone else said, shouldn't I have the right to say so-and give my reasons why?

If anyone would like to discuss this issue in private, feel free to send me an email, or discuss it right here.

It concerns me greatly, if I should come across in a negative tone. That is not me (and must be my evil twin).

Hello Cranberrycat,

I did not see nor am I aware of the thread you are referring to, however, this forum is one of the friendliest forums in which I have or had particpated. So many forums (health or otherwise) are filled with obnoxious posters with a nasty, condensending attitudes and their responses have no answers-just jokes, making fun, and bad comments. Our Zone forum is filled with people who are knowledgable, passionate and supportive and kind.

I have read many of your posts in the past and I do not see where someone would think you are obnoxious. If your statements were to take place in person, face-to-face, these discussions would make for lively, thought-provoking and informative debate. As a leader of a debate team in one of my college classes (we debated an economic issue of increased EPA air pollution standards-Kyoto Treaty etc-versus leaving them as they are), I thoroughly enjoyed sparing with the "other" team within my econ. class. The other team had my classmates whom I admired and respected for their knowledge and drive and tenaciousness. At the end, we left the class that day energized and passionate about life and ready to tackle what comes our way.

To me, reading the discussions and differences of opinions on this forum are entertaining and it shows a bit of the posters' personality without being obnoxious. I like that!

Bridget, thank you for your comments. If you are interested, the link to the thread is here:
http://www.zonediet.com/RESOURCES/F...ic/postid/
26918/forumid/16/tpage/2/Default.aspx#27016

I have always believed what you said, that I have always apprecieated reading the discussions and differences of opinions. Before I "had a clue", I found it interesting to read the opposing discussions (happened a lot more on the old forum).

And, to be quite honest, I had felt that the discussion was going along just fine. It was a discussion of opposing opinions regarding AA/EPA testing. Two of us shared differing opinions regarding whether or not to obtain a baseline AA/EPA test prior to starting fish oil. Until it was brought to my attention that I was being obnoxious and badgering, I really had no idea that I was coming off that way.

I never saw what you're referring too, but I think you seem to be a very caring and giving person who chooses her words wisely. I can think of someone on this forum who I think is very obnoxious, but I have never told them, because really, it's hard to get the right tone in written forums--sometimes we think our tone is great while others have the opposite reaction of our desired intention. Additionally, I choose to just not read too much into the obnoxious person's replies--my choice!

Thanks for the support!

I agree, it is hard to get "tone" into messages. Sometimes I will use a "LOL" or a :) to help convey tone. Other than that, I just hope that my written words are phrased in a way that doesn't offend the intended reader.

If the smileys on the right actually worked, perhaps I would use them more often! LOL!

As far as the actual accusation goes, those who accused me of being obnoxious apparently did not want to discuss it any further, since they did not post here.

Now, I know this isn't a "rule", but sometimes I get really frustrated when I see that I have spent time writing a post to someone, and then that "someone" goes and deletes the post!

I think we should have the right to delete a post, but I think it would be nice if you consider whether or not someone has responded to your post before you delete it.

OK, now I feel better...LOL!

Here is another thread in which I felt the need to comment on posts that were disappearing.

Interesting, reading through this, I had actually started this thread because someone had accused me of being obnoxious and badgering. I do have a link to the "obnoxious and badgering" thread in question. If anyone cares to read through it, feel free to do so (well, you are free to do it, regardless! LOL).

Anyway, I don't really enjoy being accused of things like that, and I would never even think of accusing someone else of that in a public forum such as this.

--this is being added after the original post--
I tried to copy/paste the link to the thread mentionioned previously in this thread, but apparently the link is not working anymore. So, if I can remember which one it was, I would certainly try to find it again and bring it back up.

Crancat,
I remember the thread that you are speaking about, and I ran across it under "my forums". It is one of the first threads that I had posted in.

The thread topic was "How often/duration do you need AA/EPA tests?"

Sounded like you and Sue were disagreeing on how often and when to do the AA/EPA test, and out of nowhere, Cici came along and accused you of being obnoxious. Of course, I was not a member prior to then, but I really didn't see much more than a difference of opinion in that thread. I felt that Cici's comments were totally out of line, and I did post a comment about that, myself.

Yes, I remember that.

I haven't read the thread but this is what I think about it.
I can say that writing a post doesn't show any facial expression or tone of voice. That makes a big difference in how we perceive someone's comments. I can also say that perception is different for everyone and some people are more sensible then others. Language is another factor. I could easily be perceived as obnoxious because I can't express myself as well as I would like too.

I have been accused before on a certain forum of having bad intentions and it was really not the case. There's nothing I could do about it because those who judged me were close minded and didn't want to hear any thing I had to say to explain myself.

I know that we can't please everybody and there will always be someone somewhere that is not satisfied with ones comments especially when there's a difference of opinion.

I appreciate your help and involvment Cranberrycat

I had started this thread because I was upset that someone had accused me of things that were not true. I didn't want to go on about it on the thread in question, and so I started this thread so that the discussion on the other thread could continue without being interrupted, and I could air out my frustration with it over here.

I think, for the most part, that the people who post here are courteous towards one another, and that this behavior that I spoke about is quite isolated.